What is anger and how can we overcome it?
Anger is defined as a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility. It’s safe to say that everybody’s had feelings of anger. What causes people to be angry? How does it affect our relationship with the father? Let’s dig into the scriptures and find some answers together.
God offers us peace that passes all understanding. The peace that comes from the father is almost impossible to explain. It’s perfect, it’s comforting, and it allows us to have control over every situation without coming to anger.
and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:7
We’re going to talk about how we can obtain perfect peace and keep our hearts and minds guarded by the Holy Spirit.
He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, But he who is impulsive exalts folly. – Proverbs 14:29
There are two parts to this verse I want to discuss in detail. You can have an understanding or be Impulsive. Let’s start with impulsive.
The word impulsive means acting or done without forethought. Anger seems to control us instead of us controlling it. When people are angry, they’re given over to power that’s not of God. They act out, scream, shout, and can even do things they regret. An impulsive person rides on emotions and fear. They also fail to have patience, and when they don’t get what they want; they scream, kick, and act up like children. They’re people who lack biblical understanding and sound doctrine.
Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm. For evildoers shall be cut off; But those who wait on the Lord, They shall inherit the earth. – Psalm 37:7-9
The more we read the bible; the more knowledge we’ll have. When we read it over and over, we’ll finally come to understand God’s words.
Many Christians today don’t know the bible, and by not knowing the scriptures of God, they’re left with made up opinions which make them fools according to the bible. We don’t get to make up the rules. We follow the rules, and we get the reward.
A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion. – Proverbs 18:2
Discretion will watch over you, understanding will guard you, delivering you from the way of evil, from men of perverted speech, who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness, who rejoice in doing evil and delight in the perverseness of evil, men whose paths are crooked, and who are devious in their ways – Proverbs 2:11-16
What Is The Source Of Anger?
A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. – Proverbs 15:1
So, while looking at proverbs, it explains perfectly the source of anger. A harsh word stirs up anger. The harsh word can come from us or others around us. This is also why the bible tells us to be slow to speak. If someone is slow to speak, they monitor every thought that proceeds from their mouths.
So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. – James 1:19-20
If we are slow to speak, we are slow to wrath. How often does talking nonstop ever lead to anything good? The devil can use that to his advantage, knowing that at the right moment, he can slip the wrong word into our minds and out it comes in the form of a harsh word.
Our Confession Steers Our Life
My pastor always says that our confession steers our lives. This is why you have to be slow to speak and think about what you’re going to say.
The bible tells us we should have a sound mind, and when we sin; we’re giving ourselves over to a double mind. When you have a double mind, you’re not alone in your thoughts; you have a demonic force that can speak to you freely, and it will work continuously to get you to speak evil.
Once you confess something terrible with your lips, you open the doors to anger, and the devil will take control. I believe there is no other emotion that gives the devil more power over someone than anger.
Sin Is The Root Cause Of Anger
The root cause of anger is a sin. Let’s take a look at how sin leads us to the point of harsh words, which leads us to anger.
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. – 1 Peter 5:8
I had a problem with anger for years. I even took medication for depression and felt as that was the way to deal with my pain and suffering. When I finally made a choice to stop smoking marijuana and stopped taking my medication, I was able to connect with the Holy Spirit for the first time in twenty years.
I was sober! The above verse says that the devil is looking for people who are not sober to devour. This is his way in; he has access to us through the use of drugs and alcohol. The word sorcery in Greek means drugs! When we do drugs or get drunk, we open doors to the demonic world, and at that point, the devil has his way in. He is ready to devour his prey like a roaring lion.
God Doesn’t Listen To The Wicked
The Lord is far from the wicked, But He hears the prayer of the righteous. – Proverbs 15:29
So a righteous living produces answered prayers. You have to leave the devices that have control over you. Your life will never move forward if you don’t. If you struggle with addiction, please send us a prayer request, and I’ll personally call you and hold your hand through this.
So to be set free from anger, we have to live sober first and foremost. Once we are sober and ready to be delivered from the grip of the devil, we can finally obtain a sound mind which will allow you to be slow to speak, quick to listen and give you much more control over what comes from your mouth.
The Danger of Venting Your Problems
A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back. – Proverbs 29:11
Because talking nonstop and venting about problems can allow us to say words that stir up anger, it’s wise that we hold back. The bible even calls us fools who vent our feelings. I know there are times that venting seems to be the only way to deal with things, I’m guilty of it and not sure I know anyone that isn’t. This is where giving things to God in private can provide you with peace and keep you from troubling those around you. Again, be slow to speak, quick to listen. When we vent about our problems, we tend to talk non stop. Once we keep talking, the devil is waiting for words that stir up anger in us. When we’re angry, he takes control.
Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil. – Ephesians 4:26-27
Like I said, giving in to anger is giving control to the devil over your mind. The last thing anyone wants is the devil taking over their actions. My brothers and sisters, I urge you not to give your thoughts to the devil. You have to be sober; you have to learn to walk in the light of Jesus.
But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire. – Matthew 5:22
Can you see how dangerous it is for your soul to be angry? Can you see how important it is to be sober-minded? I don’t know about you, but being in danger of hell fire seems like a terrible scenario. So, keep from venting, from talking too much, from having to be heard. Meditate with the Lord daily and worship him, give thanks to him and praise him until you have a sound mind. If you have a sound mind, you won’t be compelled to talk and talk until you spew out a word that leads to anger.
Fellowship Cleanses Us From Sin
But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. – 1 John 1:7
How do we get cleansed from sin? We have fellowship with one another. This can be a bible study, church, or any means of spending close time with other believers. If you want to be cleansed, you’ll need to have fellowship. I don’t care how hard my day has been when I show up to bible study with my brother and sisters all of my worries, doubts, fears, and any anger melts away immediately. Why? Because my sins are being cleansed.
Prayers and Proclamations For Deliverance.
I’m going to give you some proclamations that you can say out loud each morning and at night. Making biblical proclamations are merely reading bible verses out loud and releasing the power of the Holy Spirit into any situation.
If you feel you want to vent or have a need to speak non stop, go into your room, lock the door and read these verses and do not leave until your mind is at perfect peace.
READ THESE OUT LOUD DAILY
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
1 Timothy 2:8
I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling;
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
2 Thessalonians 3:16
Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way. The Lord be with you all.
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You because he trusts in you.
And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.
Let Us Pray
Father, in heaven, thank you for helping me understand that my sin leads to anger. Lord, I pray that you show me every sin in my life that’s allowing my mind to have thoughts that aren’t my own.
Search my heart and show me everything. I want to stop the anger that separates me from your mercy. I want you to hear my prayers and am ready to do what it takes to come back to your loving arms. Jesus, fill me with the Holy Spirit.
Thank you for loving me enough to forgive me, and I also forgive those who have hurt me in the past. God lead me to still waters and deliver me from the evil one. I want to be more like you and can’t do it alone.
I’m asking for a sound mind; I need help stopping my addictions. I know that when I do these things, I’m pushing you away from me and I can’t take one more day without my father leading me.
Please forgive me for living a life that’s not sober. I want to be sober but can’t do it on my own. Praise you, Lord, you are the king of kings and pure in heart. Thank you, father, for helping me find light and thank you for everything you’ve given me in this life. Today is the day Lord I choose to follow you and turn away from a double mind. Now, let your will be done in my life and turn me away from anger for good. In the name of Jesus, I ask these things. Amen
You need to read the proclamations daily and read the prayer daily. When you feel that you’re sad or in a lousy mood, avoid talking to anyone until you have locked yourself in your room and had time to pray and meditate. I’m telling you right now if you want to defeat this thing it’s going to take effort. Don’t take the easy way out.
Again, if you want prayers, you can message me on the contact page, and I’ll call you and pray with you. I will follow up often and make sure you’re doing OK. Why? Because I love you! I live to serve you. I’ve given my life to Jesus, and he does what he wants with it.
Now, go forth and be joyful! Life is good!